Your perspective of a situation should include another's perception of your actions. Maintaining objectivity is difficult, but not impossible! The first step to solving a problem, is identifying that one exists.
Curious as to the working thought process as I tackle problems and work through issues? Using a form of the Scientific Method and rationalization I apply critical thinking skills to help me find a resolution. These articles talk about these skills in depth.
Leadership is not a skill to be used by specific people, nor is it a skill that gets used in specific circumstances. It's a way of life that when followed will be more rewarding than you can imagine. A way of life that can help you and those around you in whatever role you find yourself in.